I doubt that I’m alone when I say that sometimes I can get jealous. Like when I see one of my friends on a fabulous work trip—you know the ones where they don’t have to cook, clean, deal with bedtime, and can wake up “naturally”. Or the days when I see the mom’s chatting on the playground as their children run about and I think, “Oh I wish I was a stay at home mom, and each day I could decide what playdate to have.”
I think we have all had times when the grass seems greener on the other side. But I have found, at least in my own situation, it’s usually not the “thing” that I’m jealous of in the end at all. Like the example of my friend’s work trip. I’ve been there, I’ve done that. No thank you. With that comes commutes and a solid 8+ hour day working for others, drama, and office politics. What I really want is unfettered time now and again to just be—by myself where I can take a break from the day to day responsibilities. You know—the cooking, the cleaning, the nose wiping, etc.
And those stay at home moms, or even better, the homeschooling moms. God love you all! As much as I can envy the time they have with their kids and the “freedom” they have with their schedule, I wouldn’t make it a day and my kids wouldn’t make it past lunch!
The point is, when the grass looks greener on the other side, it’s time to get out your hose and start watering your own lawn. What are you “missing” in your own life that makes others look more appealing? Nine times out of ten, it’s not the new house, the new car, or the promotion at all. It’s a sign that you need to take stock in your own life and really evaluate what you need more of…flexibility, quality time, self-care, a cleaning person (or is that just me!?!) and so on. It really helps to keep a heightened sense of awareness when these feelings creep in.
So as Spring has really come upon us, it’s time to get out your hose and start watering your side of the lawn.