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Self…Meet Ego

Two years ago, Zain was in his first full length play at his elementary school–a hyena in The Lion King.  The drama program at our school is amazing and they go all out in their productions.  So when they called upon the volunteers to help, I couldn’t wait to sign up.  The choices ranged from costumes to t-shirt sales to concessions and everything in between to accommodate all the parents’ skills.  So I signed up for set painting and make up.  I had visions of bringing the Serengeti to the stage and even practiced my face painting skills on Mir

Self-Care or Self-Sabotage

In my Life by Design workshop the first exercise is to fill in a typical week on a planner and then we go through together and highlight each type of activity to see where everyone is actually spending their time.  We highlight everything from household activities, to commuting, to taxiing (there is a difference), to self-care, to faith and everything in between.  It’s amazing for folks to really see how much or little they do of each type of activity. In a recent workshop, one of the attendees colored in her entire evening, every evening, with the color for self-care. 

Breaking Up is So Hard

In 1982, at the ripe young age of 11, I was introduced to “the scale”.  My mom had battled with her own weight, and continued to for the rest of her life, but had become a Weight Watchers leader when I was a kid. So I think she was overly sensitive to seeing my portly prepubescent being and concerned that I was going to go down the same road she had, and hoped to nip it in the bud early.  So she signed me up for TOPS–Taking Off Pounds Sensibly, which met in a downtown basement.  It was me and

Will You Be Sued?

In my Life By Design workshop, each attendee does a check in on where they are at, and then through a series of exercises, they put a plan in place for where they want to go and how they can get there.  It’s a lot to accomplish in 3 hours, but you’d be surprised at how much one can assess when they are given the time and space to just think! But there is a lot of hard work in this process because we can not add to our life what there is no room for.  So you have to

Step 2 to Having It All

Earlier this year I wrote my take on the first step to having it all, which in summary is realizing that you determine what “having it all” means. It’s different for every person and shouldn’t be dictated by the norms put forth by others. So now, it’s time to work on step 2. One of my clients teases me about being a super mom.  Apparently knowing your child’s bus driver’s name is not normal.  And, according to her, who in their right mind would do a road trip with a child! But in all honesty, I’m far from it! Yes,

Recycled Thoughts

Last week I did my yearly “heads down” session for soul searching around my businesses at the local library.  I marvel at those that can work in coffee shops, I am far too nosy to be able to focus on my own work surrounded by others!  But I digress. The exercise I use is one that my personal coach gave me years ago and it has you reflect on the year’s successes, breakthroughs, losses and breakdowns and then decide “what’s next” as a result.  I’ve kept one that I did 6 years ago as a reference.  I typically just look

The Days are Long

Last week I had to go to the curriculum open house night for Zain at his middle school.  This is a new school for Zain as he’s just started 6th grade. A middle schooler. This is the same little guy that came into this world without a sound, and his eyes wide open. Which seems like yesterday. No really…like yesterday. Mind you, he’s been alive for nearly 4,400 days and I’ll be honest, many of the details have slipped away—as I’ve definitely hit the age where I am operating on a one in, three out situation.  But to say that

I’m Not That Mom

Like most parents, I have my ups and downs—typically not in equal parts, but overall I think I get the job done well. My kids still smile when they see me.  And some may argue that I do a bit too much for them. But there are just some things that I will not, cannot, and or refuse to do. You’re Thirsty? Again?!?! I remember when Zain was a wee thing and we were out on an excursion when a friend reached into her stroller and pulled out a sippy cup that rattled.  As I looked at her with bewilderment, she

When a Book Is So Much More

I have always been an avid reader.  Growing up our school I rocked the Reading Olympics that helped raise money for the March of Dimes.  I would like to say that I crushed that fundraiser every year because I was very philanthropic at a young age, but truth be told, I just wanted a gold metal in a “sport” that didn’t require sweating (or athleticism) and loved to read.  So my best friend Molly and I would head to the library and literally get more books than we could carry and tuck ourselves in for a weekend of binge reading–who needed Netflix in

Is Your Tire Flat?

Lean in my friends, I have a secret. Even though I like to think I have my poop in a group, there are times when I get stuck.  It doesn’t happen quickly.  Sometimes so slowly that I don’t even know I’ve come to a halt. I call this my flat tire. Can you ride a bicycle on a flat tire?  Not for long you can’t.  And that’s how we are in life.  We need to be in balance…to be whole…to be effective. So my sure fire way to get from flat to rocking and rolling is the spoke and wheel