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Is Your Tire Flat?

Lean in my friends, I have a secret. Even though I like to think I have my poop in a group, there are times when I get stuck.  It doesn’t happen quickly.  Sometimes so slowly that I don’t even know I’ve come to a halt. I call this my flat tire. Can you ride a bicycle on a flat tire?  Not for long you can’t.  And that’s how we are in life.  We need to be in balance…to be whole…to be effective. So my sure fire way to get from flat to rocking and rolling is the spoke and wheel

My Lesson From Dr. Phil

This year, I had the best Mother’s Day ever! Yes my boys showered me with homemade gifts and kept their fighting to a minimum. But that wasn’t what made it awesome. It’s because I asked for what I wanted. I didn’t leave it to chance. Years ago, when watching Dr. Phil, he gave me one of my favorite lessons—you cannot get upset about something that you did not ask for—your loved ones are not mind readers. Are you… Waiting for days for your husband to realize that the trash is about to fully decompose in the kitchen and take it

You Just Need to Flip

When I was in college one of my favorite movies was Cutting Edge, which was about a figure skater that had exhausted all of her partner choices because she drove them all away, and the only skater they could find to couple her with was an ex hockey player. You can probably figure out the story line. They hate each other…they fight a lot…and little by little they start to fall for each other. In one of the scenes the lead female talks about how she’s feeling and likening it to two magnets. They were like magnets that were resisting

No Finish Line In Sight

Every Sunday is laundry day at our house.  We strip all of the beds, throw in the towels and rake up the boys’ bedroom floor and blitz the laundry pile.  By bedtime, we have fresh clean tightly made beds, fluffy towels and stuffed drawers.  It’s all done.  Until we look around and realize that we are all wearing clothes that are about to be put into the hamper and there begins the process again. There is no such thing as forever done with laundry. While we can finish a meal, a book, and a predetermined race, almost everything else is

Gifted?

I grew up in a very small town in Northwest Iowa where my total class size never exceeded 45.  And where everyone was taught pretty much in the same fashion.  My school didn’t have all of the specialists and testing that they have today—likely none did back then.  But when I was in upper elementary they did have the “Talented and Gifted” program and man did I want to be included! I don’t remember how kids were selected to be in the program—likely some aptitude test.  I don’t test well, except on the ASVAB, which is an aptitude exam for

Make Space and Breathe

Many years ago I had a friend of mine, who is a Feng Shui practitioner, come to my house for a consultation.  As a refresher, Feng Shui, (in Chinese thought) is a set of laws and practices as it relates to spacial arrangements that affect energy flow both negatively and positively.  The whole process was eye opening, even though I’ve likely undone any changes I’ve made over the past 10+ years, but there was one point that I won’t forget.  She said that if there is something that is bothering you or you are unhappy with, it will cause negative

When It Pays to be Unproductive

I grew up in a family where as soon as we were done eating, my grandmother would get out her Hokey vacuum sweeper and pick up every last crumb from under the table.  Every meal was directly followed by well-orchestrated dish washing and when my grandmother finally got a dishwasher, everything still needed to be washed before going in it.  I’m not sure if this mentality came from growing up on a farm (I didn’t, but my parents did) where everyone is up before dawn and the work is never done, but I come from a family that can’t bring

Time to Clean Your Filter

Several years ago I was working on a big personal event with one of my corporate clients and I screwed up. Not in the “someone got hurt” kind of way, but one that was just as monumental to the client in an “event planning type of way”. It was huge to the client and as a result, it was huge to me. I felt so bad and even though I was quick to make it right, I could not shake the feeling that I had really let her down and couldn’t forgive myself for making such a careless mistake. I

Keep Your Eyes On Your Toes

Recently I had lunch with a friend that was talking about how she has two free days per week freed up now that both of her kids are in school full time, and all the plans she has for that time.  But she then went on to lament how in the foreseeable future one or more of those days are getting scheduled and thus she won’t start XYZ projects until she has two consecutive unfettered days available. As an observer, it’s always much easier to see the holes in someone else’s plan.  So let’s go for it. What is the likeliness

4 Survival Tips for Summer

As a kid there is nothing better than summer vacation–late nights, late mornings, no homework, more junk food, more TV and endless play time.  At least that is how I remember it in the 70s when I was growing up.  And while I never sensed that my mom was going out of her mind at the time, she had to have had her moments.  As I “work” through another summer with my boys, here are my four survival tips for summer that I learned from my mom! #1. Great Summer Care is Not Easy to Find My mom opened a