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Tis the Season

Each time we transition from one season to the next, we feel the change in the weather and we adjust accordingly…stocking up hats and gloves, or shedding down to our swim suits.  Activities and interests change and availability to friends differs.  This is not unlike the seasons that we experience in our lives, albeit not ones that last only three months and are quite as predictable. As I look back on my life, I’ve had many “seasons”. My first being my toddler years (what I can remember of them) and into elementary school where I forged my first friendships and

8 Steps to Weeding Your Life

I’ve noted before, that while my mom passed many of her talents to me, her green thumb was/is not one of them. I love the look of nature, but I’m not the one that likes to convene in it on a regular basis. At least not the type of nature that means digging in the dirt and getting overheated! But at the beginning of each season, I pretend to have a green thumb for one day and get everything “back in order” so that my husband can then attend to it for the rest of the summer. As I was

Get Your Own Hose

I doubt that I’m alone when I say that sometimes I can get jealous.  Like when I see one of my friends on a fabulous work trip—you know the ones where they don’t have to cook, clean, deal with bedtime, and can wake up “naturally”.  Or the days when I see the mom’s chatting on the playground as their children run about and I think, “Oh I wish I was a stay at home mom, and each day I could decide what playdate to have.” I think we have all had times when the grass seems greener on the other side. 

My Big Ugly Cry

My mom used to cry every time that I left to go back to college, or later whenever we parted ways after a visit, and I would get so exasperated, almost embarrassed.  She was also a sucker for Kleenex and Hallmark commercials.  In my mind, she was a complete mush!  Of course, now she’s gone, and like most things that drove me crazy about her, I get it.  And dare say that I’ve become her.  I’m a complete empathetic crier.  I see someone else cry…I absolutely feel their pain, joy, hurt and I join right in.  I cry every time my

All My Pants Have Stretch

When we bought our house years ago our realtor was with an office that had the owner’s face on everything—from moving trucks, to for sale signs, to billboards.  They were the “face” of the company.  I remember thinking how striking the individual was in these photos.  And then we met the owner.  And while still a striking individual, they did not look at all like their photo.  Let’s just say the photo had not been updated in many many years.  We all change over the years.  That’s life.  The key is to admitting to it! But my take away from

My Best Marriage Decision

When two people come together and marry there are many decisions to be made.  Kids or no kids?  City life or suburbia?  Work or stay home?  And then there are about a bjillion more decisions that you make that are completely unconscious.  I have to say that the best decision that we ever made, or didn’t as it were as it’s just the way we’ve always done it, is to have separate bank accounts. While this makes complete sense to me, I definitely think that we are in the minority. When Zain was little and we did endless play dates

Host a Coloring Party

I host a cookie swap every December that everyone swears is their favorite, but I am cognizant of the fact that they could be just being nice! I’d like to say that it is my charming hostess skills and/or my goodies, but I really think that the women in my life enjoy the opportunity to connect. In our crazy busy world it’s easy to get swept up into the minutia and put aside our own connections for those of our family and/or children. When was the last time you scheduled a playdate for yourself? With the cookie swap as a

The Other F Word

How many times have you said to others (children and spouses in particular), “If you had just sat down and did it, you would have been done already?!!?!”  Or “Just focus and get it done!” Yet, if you are like me, you are guilty of the same lack of focus on a regular basis.  I will let tidiness go…emails pile up…posts linger in my head and never get them down on paper (or screen as it were).  And why?  Because some stuff isn’t that fun to do.  And everything requires some amount of effort.  And to be honest, some days,

Routine is NOT a Dirty Word

When you hear “routine” does it make your skin crawl? Or does it give you a warm cozy? When I was a new mom, I was a bit overzealous at best when it came to setting a schedule for Zain. Nap time was sacred and at times kept me from being able to socialize with other moms. Where some bucked the whole concept of nap schedules claiming their kids “weren’t sleepers” or didn’t need a lot of sleep, I needed Zain’s nap times just as much as he did (if not more). During his naps, is when I did my

2016 Monthly Challenges

Have you made your resolutions yet? Have you already stumbled?  I have! Every January a bjillion people (rough numbers) sit down and make all sorts of resolutions to get more organized, be healthier, lose weight, take better care of themselves, etc.  All are so admirable and great in concept, but where folks fall down (me included) is that we try to change the world at once–going from 0-60 in three days. As my Grandma Schuler says, “too much of a good thing, isn’t so good.”  So we need to make incremental changes and pace ourselves.  We also need to be