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Self…Meet Ego

Two years ago, Zain was in his first full length play at his elementary school–a hyena in The Lion King.  The drama program at our school is amazing and they go all out in their productions.  So when they called upon the volunteers to help, I couldn’t wait to sign up.  The choices ranged from costumes to t-shirt sales to concessions and everything in between to accommodate all the parents’ skills.  So I signed up for set painting and make up.  I had visions of bringing the Serengeti to the stage and even practiced my face painting skills on Mir

Will You Be Sued?

In my Life By Design workshop, each attendee does a check in on where they are at, and then through a series of exercises, they put a plan in place for where they want to go and how they can get there.  It’s a lot to accomplish in 3 hours, but you’d be surprised at how much one can assess when they are given the time and space to just think! But there is a lot of hard work in this process because we can not add to our life what there is no room for.  So you have to

Step 2 to Having It All

Earlier this year I wrote my take on the first step to having it all, which in summary is realizing that you determine what “having it all” means. It’s different for every person and shouldn’t be dictated by the norms put forth by others. So now, it’s time to work on step 2. One of my clients teases me about being a super mom.  Apparently knowing your child’s bus driver’s name is not normal.  And, according to her, who in their right mind would do a road trip with a child! But in all honesty, I’m far from it! Yes,

You Just Need to Flip

When I was in college one of my favorite movies was Cutting Edge, which was about a figure skater that had exhausted all of her partner choices because she drove them all away, and the only skater they could find to couple her with was an ex hockey player. You can probably figure out the story line. They hate each other…they fight a lot…and little by little they start to fall for each other. In one of the scenes the lead female talks about how she’s feeling and likening it to two magnets. They were like magnets that were resisting

No Finish Line In Sight

Every Sunday is laundry day at our house.  We strip all of the beds, throw in the towels and rake up the boys’ bedroom floor and blitz the laundry pile.  By bedtime, we have fresh clean tightly made beds, fluffy towels and stuffed drawers.  It’s all done.  Until we look around and realize that we are all wearing clothes that are about to be put into the hamper and there begins the process again. There is no such thing as forever done with laundry. While we can finish a meal, a book, and a predetermined race, almost everything else is

4 Survival Tips for Summer

As a kid there is nothing better than summer vacation–late nights, late mornings, no homework, more junk food, more TV and endless play time.  At least that is how I remember it in the 70s when I was growing up.  And while I never sensed that my mom was going out of her mind at the time, she had to have had her moments.  As I “work” through another summer with my boys, here are my four survival tips for summer that I learned from my mom! #1. Great Summer Care is Not Easy to Find My mom opened a

Tis the Season

Each time we transition from one season to the next, we feel the change in the weather and we adjust accordingly…stocking up hats and gloves, or shedding down to our swim suits.  Activities and interests change and availability to friends differs.  This is not unlike the seasons that we experience in our lives, albeit not ones that last only three months and are quite as predictable. As I look back on my life, I’ve had many “seasons”. My first being my toddler years (what I can remember of them) and into elementary school where I forged my first friendships and

The Other F Word

How many times have you said to others (children and spouses in particular), “If you had just sat down and did it, you would have been done already?!!?!”  Or “Just focus and get it done!” Yet, if you are like me, you are guilty of the same lack of focus on a regular basis.  I will let tidiness go…emails pile up…posts linger in my head and never get them down on paper (or screen as it were).  And why?  Because some stuff isn’t that fun to do.  And everything requires some amount of effort.  And to be honest, some days,

Moms…Cruel or Brilliant?

Have you seen the cartoon on Facebook that says, “Behind Every Great Kid is a Mom That Is Sure She’s Screwing It Up” or something like that! I think every mom has to feel like that at some point along the way—or every day for that matter! We have to do the best that we can with what we’ve got and realize that we have our eye on the prize years down the line when our kids grow into, what we hope will be, respectful, responsible adults. But our kids probably think we are just plain cruel in the process.