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Recycled Thoughts

Last week I did my yearly “heads down” session for soul searching around my businesses at the local library.  I marvel at those that can work in coffee shops, I am far too nosy to be able to focus on my own work surrounded by others!  But I digress. The exercise I use is one that my personal coach gave me years ago and it has you reflect on the year’s successes, breakthroughs, losses and breakdowns and then decide “what’s next” as a result.  I’ve kept one that I did 6 years ago as a reference.  I typically just look

The Days are Long

Last week I had to go to the curriculum open house night for Zain at his middle school.  This is a new school for Zain as he’s just started 6th grade. A middle schooler. This is the same little guy that came into this world without a sound, and his eyes wide open. Which seems like yesterday. No really…like yesterday. Mind you, he’s been alive for nearly 4,400 days and I’ll be honest, many of the details have slipped away—as I’ve definitely hit the age where I am operating on a one in, three out situation.  But to say that

I’m Not That Mom

Like most parents, I have my ups and downs—typically not in equal parts, but overall I think I get the job done well. My kids still smile when they see me.  And some may argue that I do a bit too much for them. But there are just some things that I will not, cannot, and or refuse to do. You’re Thirsty? Again?!?! I remember when Zain was a wee thing and we were out on an excursion when a friend reached into her stroller and pulled out a sippy cup that rattled.  As I looked at her with bewilderment, she

My Lesson From Dr. Phil

This year, I had the best Mother’s Day ever! Yes my boys showered me with homemade gifts and kept their fighting to a minimum. But that wasn’t what made it awesome. It’s because I asked for what I wanted. I didn’t leave it to chance. Years ago, when watching Dr. Phil, he gave me one of my favorite lessons—you cannot get upset about something that you did not ask for—your loved ones are not mind readers. Are you… Waiting for days for your husband to realize that the trash is about to fully decompose in the kitchen and take it

No Finish Line In Sight

Every Sunday is laundry day at our house.  We strip all of the beds, throw in the towels and rake up the boys’ bedroom floor and blitz the laundry pile.  By bedtime, we have fresh clean tightly made beds, fluffy towels and stuffed drawers.  It’s all done.  Until we look around and realize that we are all wearing clothes that are about to be put into the hamper and there begins the process again. There is no such thing as forever done with laundry. While we can finish a meal, a book, and a predetermined race, almost everything else is

Designed Versus Designer

My lifelong dream of becoming a designer came after graduating from the College of Design at Iowa State University a really long time ago! As an interior designer, I would get a lot of “oh so you are a decorator” comments, or people begging me to see my house! Aside from the fact that I was a corporate interior designer, not residential, there is a difference between a designer and a decorator (not that there is anything wrong with decorators…bear with me). According to the dictionary that comes up when you Google it… A designer is a person who plans

Keep Your Eyes On Your Toes

Recently I had lunch with a friend that was talking about how she has two free days per week freed up now that both of her kids are in school full time, and all the plans she has for that time.  But she then went on to lament how in the foreseeable future one or more of those days are getting scheduled and thus she won’t start XYZ projects until she has two consecutive unfettered days available. As an observer, it’s always much easier to see the holes in someone else’s plan.  So let’s go for it. What is the likeliness

Tis the Season

Each time we transition from one season to the next, we feel the change in the weather and we adjust accordingly…stocking up hats and gloves, or shedding down to our swim suits.  Activities and interests change and availability to friends differs.  This is not unlike the seasons that we experience in our lives, albeit not ones that last only three months and are quite as predictable. As I look back on my life, I’ve had many “seasons”. My first being my toddler years (what I can remember of them) and into elementary school where I forged my first friendships and

The Other F Word

How many times have you said to others (children and spouses in particular), “If you had just sat down and did it, you would have been done already?!!?!”  Or “Just focus and get it done!” Yet, if you are like me, you are guilty of the same lack of focus on a regular basis.  I will let tidiness go…emails pile up…posts linger in my head and never get them down on paper (or screen as it were).  And why?  Because some stuff isn’t that fun to do.  And everything requires some amount of effort.  And to be honest, some days,